Posted by: Christine Donovan | August 10, 2009

When You Don’t Trust Your Boss

Interesting article on’s homepage today.  A sad commentary on our times… or perhaps other “times” too.  But bosses aren’t perfect either, and if you’ve ever had to leave a position because of an untrustworthy boss (I have!) then you will relate to this…

An excerpt from: When You Don’t Trust Your Boss  By Anthony Balderrama, writer

<…> “If you find that you can’t trust a co-worker, you can discuss the issue face-to-face, and if need be, go to the boss to resolve the issue.  But what if it’s the boss that’s the problem?

“As with any situation, you need to step back and identify the problem, says Holly Green, CEO and managing director of The Human Factor, a consulting firm.

” ‘First and foremost, determine why you don’t trust your boss,’ Green says. ‘Is it based on your own assumptions, beliefs and biases, which you have sought to prove true over time, or is there some truly tangible data? Are you absolutely sure you are right? If so, you have to then decide whether it is a personal issue — i.e. it is against or outside your own ethics and standards versus it is illegal, clearly against company policy, etc.’ ”

“If the boss is operating outside of your personal standards but well within the company’s policies and principles, Green cautions employees to think about their limits.

” ‘You have to make a decision on whether you can live with it,” she says. ‘Are you going to build up resentment over time that is going to leak out of you and damage your own reputation? What tradeoffs are you willing to make?’ ”

“For example, a previous boss told Green she was doing too much high quality work and as a result she was damaging the rest of the team’s images. She knew she couldn’t operate in that kind of environment, but the boss wasn’t violating any company procedures, either. So she chose to leave.”

Good stuff.  To read the entire article, go to:

See you soon!


  1. Very interesting article. I’ve been known to be quite a direct communicator and have given my bosses feedback on more than one occasion. Needless to say sometimes with negative results.Therefore I’m in the process of writing about communication when you need to tell a person (be it your boss or another person) something they need to know, but will resist or deny when you tell them. Pls, look out for this on

  2. That’s a common problem that we are “all” guilty of… not seeing ourselves as others see us. Most people defend themselves against feedback, no matter how tactfully it’s put.

    The older I get, the more I try to listen to helpful input.

    Thanks, Kevin… I will check out your blog.

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